A narcissist is similar to a hoarder in that they collect people not things. They view people as objects, meant to be used, they serve as either a supply, potential supply, or they have no purpose. A narc has a laundry list of people that he/she can manipulate to get exactly what they need. The Narcissist harem is comprised of ex-girlfriends, potential girlfriends and women who wish to be his girlfriend. Coworkers, friends and family are also included on their list. Basically anyone who will boast their sense of superiority and ego by placing them on a pedestal. A narc will always keep all options open never truly closing or ending any past relationships. Often the harem or as I like to call them “groupies” will stop at nothing to get with the narc, even selling themselves short. It’s rare harem members know one another. The notes that the victims could share would come crashing down on the narc if harem members knew of each other. Secrecy is the golden rule. The cycle works by finding a new target, placing the old targets on standby feeding them crumbs until needed and then bouncing between the two if need to in order to have a full supply.